You say your scared that you might be Bi? is there a reason your scared? is it maybe its not the norm for you and those around you. or perhaps its varied, none of which is shameful, just something to think about :) they also heave quite a lot of information on the site too you might find helpful.Īnother thing to consider is perhaps your attracted to them more physically, meaning what they look like, or perhaps emotionally meaning is it their peronsality that draws you in or is more sexually meaning, is the idea of having sex with someone of the same gender more appealling. Theres a site called QLife, they have counsellors (those who are lbgti themselves) and you can talk to them about this too, its nothing to be emabrrassed about.
i honestly dont think people need labels, you are who you are but if labels make you more comfortable thats ok too.
i am one of those people, i was pretty set on guys (i am a female) however in the more recent years ive had feelings similar to you. You might even enjoy it :) but you have to be comfortable with it, it's something that shouldn't be forced.Įxploring and questioning your sexuality is normal it doesnt matter how old you are, alot of people question it a few times in their life. Even if you're comfortable with it, nothing is stopping you exploring your sexuality with women, not saying it has to be with your best friend (I'll touch on that one a little later in the post) but there's absolutely nothing wrong exploring yourself with women. I've had a good five/six years knowing I was gay, but I still question it all the time, there's entirely nothing wrong with it.Īs monkey_magic said, you're normal you're another beautiful human being as good as everyone else. Random unwanted thoughts though unwanted are pretty healthy, I myself being gay wonder "What happens if I kissed that girl?" "Would I enjoy it?" then, to be honest, I think "Am I still gay?". Regarding your sexuality, it's tremendous you have discovered yourself and your feelings for the same gender. It's great to see another member of the LGBTI community. It's excellent you've taken the courage to speak about your issue, that's what I'll commend you for firstly. Welcome to the forums, it's great you've come here to seek some support during this confusing time. I just want to go back to when I was obsessing over boys without question that I'm lying to myself. I thought about why it sounds so bad to me and I have decided that it is because being bi wouldn't be me! I thought that was a good enough reason but these random thoughts are not stopping. I'm now so scared that this means I am turning bi. But every time I Had the thought the idea became more tolerable. Was I Bi? I cried over this for days and nights I started obsessing over it, I kept forcing myself to make this thought to happen so that I knew things hadn't changed. As the week went on a began to think that this meant something. As I thought about it more the idea became less 'disgusting' but still not something I was interested in.
The thought was so scary I had never thought anything like this before it was 'disgusting' to me. For example one day I was talking to my best friend (girl) and thought "what if I kissed her right now". I have always liked boys and still do, but I'm getting random unwanted thoughts about my sexuality.